It is not loving to stay in place where you are happy sometimes and sad most of the time. It is not loving to convince yourself that it is okay to stay in a place where you are not loved, honored and valued the way your heart tells you- you deserve to be. It is not self loving, nor is it loving others involved, to allow yourself to be mentally, emotionally or physically abused in hope that things can, or will, get better.

When you participate in actions and activities that are not loving toward you, you are helping them do things that hurt you, and that is not a loving thing to do. It is easy to convince yourself that you must stay where you are because you have no place else to go; or because you know things could be worse, or because you know things could get better.

It is easy to look away at things that eat away at your sense of self, your sense of value, your sense of well being. As easy as it may be to blame someone else, to try to ignore what you feel, to call your pain a sacrifice for love, you are not being loving or wise to do so. Eventually, you will be responsible for everything you experience and how you have responded to it.

Love does not ask us to lose ourselves, harm ourselves or sacrifice ourselves for its sake.Love offers itself to us, measure for measure, what we offer. If you are being dishonored, disrespected, physically harmed for the love you give, you must ask yourself, “ Am I really giving love, or am I Simply afraid to leave?” Allow yourself to stand in truth, honor and peace of love. Ask yourself, “ Am I receiving all that I am giving?” If not, ask yourself, “Why not…?”Keep the faith and remember, Tough times don’t last always, Tough people do:...Life is short, Break the rules, forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile!!!!!!!!

Priorities and Accountability...

Well....where do I began! The last month or so has been very life altering and Amazingly different for me. The new networks, friendships and business ventures that I have recently embarked upon has most definitely challenged me in the areas of what things in my life are of priority and how I hold myself accountable to my actions and thoughts. With that said....It has come to my attention that our community has yet to learn the concept of Empowerment and Holistic health and wellness, and its vital necessity to be ever-present in our lives.

I was sharing my new business venture with a friend the other day...and while they were very interested and receptive in the overall concept and objectives of the business, they had a certain reservation about the financial investments that were necessary in order to be apart of the company as a consumer and/or business partner.

So, I went on to state various quotes about successful, wealthy people and how important it is to constantly invest in yourself as well as others while you are advancing in your business. Quotes like,

““Successful people are successful because they form the habits of doing those things that failures don't like to do.”…..or

“Invest three percent of your income in yourself (self-development) in order to guarantee your future.”

Then it hit me…..The Reality is: We need to learn how to invest and prioritize our finances, with accountability, for the betterment of ourselves, our hopes, dreams…and businesses!I’ve been in Atlanta, the acclaimed “Black Hollywood” long enough to realize that some of us do not understand the difference between being rich or successful and being wealthy…holistically! So, for some of my friends, family, colleagues to complain about the high financial investment needed to maintain a healthy/balanced life( nutrition, exercise, check-ups, hygiene, etc) is a complete joke to me when most of us can spend $300 on hair (not to sew in, that’s just to buy)…even as much as $1500 for a lace wig….$600-$1500 for a BAG!....shoes, nails…clothes…etc…..and you have the nerve to complain about a $20-$40 supplement?!...Come on people! Wake up!....

I’m not saying that you’re not entitled to splurge on these luxuries for yourself….what I am saying is that my job, as a health/wellness educator, distributor and massage therapist, is all the more difficult when my people( my color, my community) are the most negative and unreceptive folk when it comes to WHOLENESS, and being wealthy inside and out!Granted, society does make it hard for you to maintain a healthy lifestyle as far as food is concerned, because it costs more to eat healthy…and why spend $50 in the Whole Foods store when you can order for a family of six off the dollar menu…..point taken. However, we HAVE to be held accountable for what/ how we invest in what goes on the EXTERNAL part of our body and the INTERNAL part. You want the high paying jobs, the house with the ‘mortgage’, you want the elite titles and the VIP benefits to go with it….but what good is having those things if you won’t live long to enjoy them for yourself…or to see your children enjoy life. I assure you ladies and gentlemen…you will reap what you sow!

Now, I’m not advocating for you to be healthy so that I may recruit or sell you anything….This message is to simply inform and challenge you on TRUTH. Holistic health starts in the changing of your mind first….soul, body…and it manifests outwardly into your words, your walk, and they way you treat others. So make an investment in yourself! Make an investment in future! Make an investment into fulfilling those things that you are most passionate about in life….and the way you do that, is by Transforming your mind and unhealthy habits.

I may have struck a nerve…but I love you all the more!

Butta-fly.

My Daily Affirmation

My mind, body and spirit are Strong. I take time each day to rejuvenate and recharge. I draw from a deep well of peace and calm I breathe in strength and release my fears. I go after my hearts desires. I can accomplish anything. All of my dreams are coming true. I focus on my goal and have the strength to make It Happen. I choose to be unstoppable. I am strong. I am succulantly vivavcious with beauty beyond the physical. I act in spite of my fears. I am bigger than my concerns and worries. I go for it with gusto. I can do anything I put my mind to. Each day I am getting stronger. I take great care of myself. The strength of others inspires me daily. I trust my intuition and live a courageous life.What's your affirmation? ....